Tag Archives: fear

Is It Safe?

Why do our eyes shut and our jaws clench when we watch the torture scene in The Marathon Man? It has to be more than just our collective fear of dentists. In that scene, Dustin and Larry dramatize one of our most primal needs – our need for safety.

Dear Eating Disorder

 By Geoffrey Geddes

Saying goodbye is often difficult, especially to a long-time companion. We’ve been together for nearly 60 years now, since long before I could even speak. You comforted me when Mom first had to abdicate her feeding duties to my disabled father and my babysitter in order to support our family. I quickly learned to find solace in the substance rather than in the provider. You comforted me when Mom or Dad or the babysitter or Grandma or my aunts or my uncles or the neighbor would (always with good intentions) pacify my yearning for attention with a cookie or a donut or a candy bar. I quickly learned that I could snatch a little more attention and a little more comfort by asking for just one more (and maybe just one more). Read more

Don’t Be Afraid

By Geoffrey Geddes

Ego uses fear to guard its emotional territory. During our evolutionary youth, reflexive fear helped to propagate our species by bolstering our battle skills and energizing our escape. Today, ego-embellished, maladaptive fear sabotages our best efforts to live effectively.

A fly on a cave wall watches Homo Predecessor scrutinize his own hand; HP giggles at the wiggling fingers. He wanders outside, passes beside a watering hole, and bolts at his reflection; the stranger in the water also retreats. HP peeks into the water, and the pool-man peeks back. HP makes faces and watches the image reciprocate, finally realizing his role in both dramas. He exists. He is. He swings his club and down goes a boar, just as before. But now, he ponders as he munches his kill. “Whew,” thinks HP, “if me slower, pig bite me; then me go down; me could DIE!!” Fear of death – a fear provoked by thought rather than circumstance – marks the beginning of ego’s maladaptive reign. Read more

Leaving Wonderland: A Real Hero’s Journey

By Geoffrey Geddes

Life calls to each of us with a singular, persistent appeal: live!  Heroes answer. Cowards disregard life’s plea and die before they bask in the light of authentic living. Late Bloomers doggedly delay their response. Circumstances or conditioning may defer the Late Bloomer’s foray. But life compels fruition. We bloom victorious, or we die unfinished. Read more

My Ego Is Best!

By Geoffrey Geddes

The sword of consciousness slices with two edges. With the first, we cut through primal perplexity with Holmesian observation and Einsteinian reckoning, unearthing Troy and dancing on the moon. Ego wields the second edge.

Our lizard brain struggled mightily to outgrow its survival obsession long enough to recognize its own reflection. As our neocortex grew, humans developed increasingly impressive ingenuity, cunning, adaptability, and awareness. Regrettably, our budding brain also begot ego – a maladaptive byproduct of intellectual awakening that remains tied to our reptilian survival edict. Consciousness observes, ego fears; consciousness appreciates, ego demands; consciousness ponders, ego worries; consciousness lives, ego dominates. Read more