Happiness Is Not…

By Geoffrey Geddes

Happiness is not good feelings. It is not a sweet taste or a comforting scent. Happiness is not a dream house or a faster car or a promotion or a good hair day. It is not a relaxing bath or a deep massage or a jackpot or great sex. (Just hear me out.) Happiness ...  Read more

Being Is Remembering

By Geoffrey Geddes

Perception follows experience; they are neither equivalent nor simultaneous. The time between experience and perception might be less than a hummingbird’s wing flap. Yet, without that period of reflection no perception, and therefore no consciousness, is possible. ...  Read more

People Are No Damned Good

By Geoffrey Geddes

Psychologist Carl Rogers’s therapeutic model rests on two philosophical pillars: first, that a person will, unless hampered by environmental factors, move toward congruency with his or her real self or, as Kierkegaard phrased it, “that self which one truly ...  Read more

Relax and Connect

By Geoffrey Geddes

Relax your shield hand, Captain Ego, for just a moment – just long enough to take a quick breath and exchange an authentic pleasantry. You might meet a pregnant Canadian with a soothing smile who recharges your familial batteries. You might share some truth ...  Read more

Lay Down Your Defenses

By Geoffrey Geddes

Lay down your ego weapons periodically and appreciate, and perhaps applaud, your adversaries. People rarely show up to a fight empty-handed. Today I met the guy who studied under the guy who studied under Carl Rogers. I met a woman who worked on the unsafe side ...  Read more

As Is Often The Case

By Geoffrey Geddes

We experience life in the flow of moments; we learn about life, and ourselves, in the reflective flashes that occur during and after those moments. Reflection often occurs spontaneously, of course. But it helps to reflect purposely – to remember not to forget ...  Read more

It’s All In Your Head, So Dance

Is Reality Real?

Solipsists isolate, radical empiricists separate, Buddhists incorporate, and monotheists prostrate. Devotees of each perspective syllogize and infer and spin mental pinwheels that yield little more than academic vertigo. The convoluted arguments of earnest seekers typically reveal more about the seekers than the reality sought. If someone offers you the Truth, smile and check for your wallet.

Conceiving Anima

He suckles without shame, oblivious To separation; rapt in unity. He dreams of circles and anonymous Creations that reflect eternity.

Don’t Be Afraid

By Geoffrey Geddes

Ego uses fear to guard its emotional territory. During our evolutionary youth, reflexive fear helped to propagate our species by bolstering our battle skills and energizing our escape. Today, ego-embellished, maladaptive fear sabotages our best efforts to live ...  Read more

Context and Conditioning

By Geoffrey Geddes

Life imposes context. We do not choose our genetic attributes or our initial social and environmental circumstances. The power to affect our context develops with our maturing consciousness, eventually crossing a threshold after which choice drives our destiny ...  Read more